Some people do not know they are in a mental prison. Their day-to-day perceptions have become standard. Some folks may not have the tools to break out. Or even be willing to. The more we can stay in a predictable environment, the more comfortable we humans tend to be.
An Example Of Mental Prisons
There are times I can’t get my body off the couch. It feels like my laziness ensnares me. This can happen after a long day when my mental defenses are down and, you guessed it, the television is on. Yes, abuse of the flat screen is a mental prison.
My brain thinks it would be a great idea to do something. The only thing I’m motivated to do is graze the fridge. Eating to escape is a mental prison.
The list goes on…
Pattern Recognition And mental Prisons
I’m not very good at predicting the future. Nor am I particularly good at interpreting the past. Life is confusing.
A ball peen hammer to the head, I understand.
And I comprehend repetition. When repeated events occur with similar outcomes, I start to get it. It doesn’t make me any better at prediction, but solace comes from pretending I can.
Thin-slicing describes finding patterns in events based only on “thin slices” or narrow windows of information. It is prevalent in our thought process; this is an ability worth improving.
I am not good at telling the difference between good and bad news. Almost any sort comes with elements of both. Part of living in a mental prison: the cause of a challenge may not be the path to the solution. People can be so chained to past pain that their place of incarceration is comfortable. Regret, loss, and self-deprecation are cadences that become truth.
In Ancient Greece, on the road to the oracle at Delphi, a sign could be found “Know Thyself” or “Know Your Limitations.”
Socrates said ‘The Unexamined Life Is Not Worth Living”.
Mental Prisons are super prevalent. Most of us have had to deal with it from time to time.
The Jailer’s Key And Mental Prisons
If the keys to freedom are in our possession, why remain incarcerated? Some folks get used to their pattern of thinking. Functional problems relate to other concerns. These challenges may keep us from participating in healthy relationships. We tend to become entrenched in our belief systems and daily routines. They may not even consider a different way to live.
I have seen these challenges from time and again.
Mental prisons can be like a Merry-Go-Round; one thought fuels another that compounds more reflections. This path leads to a lack of confidence and inaction.
Mental Prisons Can Be tough To Escape
I understand that a mental prison can be like post-traumatic stress disorder. That discussion is way out of my pay grade; I’m not going down that rabbit hole.
Some situations that you lived through may have been very frightening. Some things are hard to forget and not easy to move beyond. So, yeah, reliving stuff like that can shackle your mind. And there’s nothing you can do about it other than try some meds and hope they work.
Life doesn’t give us meaning; we have to find it. Every single moment of our lives has meaning. Searching for purpose requires change and growth.
No single variable in our circumstance is predictive of a specific outcome.
Accuracy and direction are the two most essential aspects of self-truth.
The human brain embraces that which it perceives as truth. Because we are social beings, trust is the adhesive that holds us together. We mistrust those who adhere to lies and manufacture inaccuracies.
What is truth? What truth boils down to is this: many times, it’s easier for me to understand the behavior of others when I barely understand my own.
I am looking to free myself from my fears and find what I love.
Many things we do in society are like participating in a team sports mentality.
We do these everyday things: cheating on taxes, running red lights, jaywalking, right? We often make mistakes, and our best response is that other people do similar things. If that’s you, you might be in a mental prison.
It is in our nature to prefer fairness. In life, most of us aren’t at the top of the game; so we seek out equality. Equality is an impossible standard because what is fair for you often isn’t right for me. And that’s most situations.
The biggest illusion in life is that it is going to be fair. Is a set of rules going to create equality?
This example is an oversimplification – Dennis is athletic, and I’m rich. The government is trying to make us equal. How do the authorities do that? They have to ensure I share my wealth in exchange for my friend’s athleticism. It’s a weak argument, but you get the point. I apologize to Dennis for bringing him into this; sorry, Bro.
Is this a way to play fair, be on the same team?
I do not think it is productive to argue about fairness, especially in the concept of creativity. Art can be a great regulator. Those ablest or most fruitful are those who forge forward.
Wrong priorities can create a mental prison. The goal is to develop correct priorities.
My father often said he wished that my grandfather had owned a business. That business could have become a family inheritance, passed on as a legacy.
Owning any business involves risk. My father had the option to create a business. That can be a hard decision. Especially with a mortgage, two kids and all the added responsibilities.
Then there is the decision on what sort of business. I’m not my dad; there is no way I would pass judgment on his choices. But the option was there if he had wanted to choose it.
That was a different time and place. Finish high school, go to college, get married, buy a house and have 2.5 kids, go on vacations, retire; you know the ending. The American Dream, right?
In today’s America, the path isn’t as straightforward. Do you believe the American Dream still functions under the same parameters? If so, you may be in a mental prison.
I have been in the same career for a very long time. There have been rewards and pitfalls, like anything else.
I have always wanted more. One basic human desire is the longing for more; enough is not enough. Year in and year out, I have stayed in the same thought patterns.
I have had music as an avocation for most of my working life. There is enormous love and passion there.
There has always been underlying frustration in its pursuit. Even working full-time on the road, there were frustrations.
What I now know is something I hadn’t considered in the past: I have been in a mental prison.
What Am I telling Myself?
If I want to help others, I must take care of myself first. I won’t be of much use to anyone else if I don’t.
Stories are our interpretation of facts. Stories are powerful. If I tell myself I’m stupid, doesn’t stupid behavior follow? What happens when I tell myself the opposite? Every story we tell ourselves is incomplete in one way or another.
If you can not look at both sides of a situation or an argument, you may be in a mental prison. The questions asked should include the needed details. Ask also what elements are not required, what you pay attention to, and what you do not.
Each of us, individually, creates our reality. Predictably, we combine groundless certainty in all kinds of situations. Unexpected errors can occur in our assumptions. That’s how we ended up with the society in which we live.
Do We Have A Correct Perspective?
We function in the belief that our perspective is the correct perspective. We call into question those who do not think our way. The path to narcissism leads in this direction.
I do not think most of us have learned comparative thinking. What is it like to live someone else’s life? Why is this one person worse than someone else? Do we know all the facts?
We begin our circumstances as two different people. One is who we are; the other is whom we want to be. My eventual goal is for the two to meet. I also want to be able to look at challenges from unorthodox perspectives. It is obvious that my previous thought process has not helped me achieve what is essential in my life; my lack of foresight trap.
I am guilty of putting invisible restrictions on myself. Those restrictions come with their own biases. The idea is to see around the prejudices I have created. I need to reconsider the rules. There are self-manufactured boundaries and perceived constraints that need to go away.
There are daily habits to which I adhere. I’m not always consistent, but these practices move my goals forward.
I am grateful for this day given to me. As much as I want to leave my job behind, I am thankful for the opportunity to earn a living. There are my family, friends, spiritual connections, health, and pursuit of my talents. I’m grateful for these things.
There is a need for me to keep moving. If I’m not moving forward, I start to vibrate. I vibrate, displaying anxiety. My mind churns, frustration boils over, and apprehension ensues.
Physical and creative activities are the two solutions to my anxiety. I need both to maintain balance. Weather permitting, I ride my bicycle 100 miles a week. My other options include walking 20 to 30 miles a week. Hitting the gym for a few days also provides respite.
Being creative takes the lion’s share of my time. I can constantly improve, whether playing music, producing, recording, or writing. That process includes collating information which facilitates my imagination. There is also time spent honing my skill set. Every day leads to the discovery of some weakness that needs strengthening.
I strive to be authentic. We all carry some pain. Every day involves trying to tease it somehow out. It took a long time, but I am learning not to live someone else’s definition of who I am.
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